International Women's Day
was introduced in the early 1900s because women did not have the
basic rights to vote, property, and other social and economic rights.
But we feel that women's day has been reduced to a platform for
making people aware of women's issues rather than correcting the
problems. Don't get us wrong; we are not saying that we haven't
progressed, but should this be enough? Or should this even be a thing
to fight for? From gaslighting in modern-day offices and body image
issues to making them guilty about the personal or professional part
of their lives, the problems have also evolved with us women over
You look at any campaign
around you, the issues are being highlighted, and the encouragement
is being sought to change the way we live, to change patriarchy. But
the people actually changing are very few. It is time to step-up our
games. Who wants to be equal to men? We just want our individuality
respected. So, before you put those mandated women's day messages on
your WhatsApp groups with mandated hashtags, pause and think. What
have you done to make things better for yourself or other women? This
is the first step in the right direction- to act.
The next thing to do is
to change yourself. We don't realize at times; how deeply rooted
patriarchy is in our lives. Or how much we judge unknowingly. Or how
we don't realize that the world our kids are growing up in is not a
lot different than what we despised? Identify the root causes and
change before its too late. Question yourself when you feel gratitude
to your husband when he helps with your house chores. Question
yourself when you feel uncomfortable to see your boy playing with
dolls or the kitchen. Question and change.
A lot has been said about
the safety of women, especially in India. Yes, the problem exists and
let's face it; it may take centuries to change. Can we change them?
We can try. Can we be better equipped? Definitely! Learn martial
arts, we say and teach your kids too. Self-defence gives you the
confidence to be yourself come what may and live life on your terms.
Household issues? Lack of respect? Due to these and many other
violating issues, an increasing number of women have been having
mental health issues. We suggest you meet a therapist and take
medical help. We have a habit of internalizing problems because we
feel that's just how it is. You will be surprised at how it is not.
Speak up and ask for help. Talk to your HR, talk to a
relative/friend, meet counsellors but do not let the feelings simmer.
We can go on, but the
fact is that each woman around the world faces a new challenge every
day. And what you need to do to have a better life is something that
you may need to figure. Our only submission is, do something about
it. Spreading awareness about the issues is done and dusted, now is
the time to make this world a more empathetic and a better place!